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Are you an introvert and your husband an extrovert? Or is it the opposite- you are the extrovert and he is the introvert? Either way having different personalities is something that can cause friction in our relationships. We have needs and they have needs, yet we are supposed to meet all those needs at once! We are going to talk about some ways to handle the issues that arise as introverts and extroverts.
First off we have to know and accept both our own personality traits and our man’s. We must realize that one is not better than the other, but that God made us different for a reason! We must embrace those differences.
Some tips to exercise:
(We are going to assume the lady is introvert. However, if you are the extrovert it all still applies just switch the gender references.)
- Set Guidelines for Social Events- If we do not want to go to a social event that is okay. However, we must be ok with him going to it by himself. No guilt trips. However, if he says he would really like us to be there then we need to attend the event with him.
- Figure Things Out- If we hone in on what makes us uncomfortable in settings we can work on them or create limits. If going out where a lot of chatting is involved decided before hand how long you two will stay or drive separately. If you’re staying in tonight decide how the night will be spent.
- Regulate Quiet Time- Depending on the kind of work we do and our personality may depend on the amount of quite time we need. Talk with your man about when quiet time is needed. First thing in the morning, once arriving home or right before bed. If you’re the extrovert discuss what time of day you have a lot on your mind and would appreciate a listening ear.
- Being Fair About Dates- Switch back and forth when it comes to date ideas. Allow him to choose an idea this time and you the next. This way extroverts have the chance to “go out” and introverts can choose to have a stay at home date. We each must give a little to receive a little. If we constantly have stay at home dates our man may not be enjoying them as much or it may not fill his love tank.
- Willing to Understand- The most important thing when it comes to any personality differences between spouses is to be willing to understand and accepting. Like I said above we are different. We have to accept that. We have to be willing to be a little uncomfortable or do something that isn’t our favorite just as we expect our man to do the same for us. This way we both feel loved!
To make these tips work we have to talk to him about them. We have to discuss and talk through them beforehand so that we both are on the same page. If this is a topic you need to discuss with your man let him know today!
Check out this useful article that has a bit more advice.
What tips do you have for introvert vs. extrovert couples?
Until Next Time- Truly Love,
Cassie
I don’t know if I have any tips, but this is definitely something we struggle with as a couple. My husband is very introverted and I’m more of an extrovert- although I do tend to have some introvert tendencies.
Thanks for sharing your tip- they really put things into perspective!
Another reader asked me to share my thoughts on this topic. I told her if she was thinking about it others could use it too! Glad this topic can be of some help to you Jess!.
LOVE this! I feel like I fall under both categories- introvert and extrovert. It really depends on the day/location. My husband is mostly an extrovert. He could stay out at events for hours, I on the other hand, begin to crave my cozy home and a cup of tea 🙂
I do think it depends on moods, time of the year, stress levels and so much more. I think being flexible is important in this topic as well! Thank you for your thoughts Chloe!
I don’t have any tips on this one. Surprisingly, Robert and I are about the same as far as extroverted and introverted.
I think Ryan and I are about the same too, Kristal. I am a little more extrovert when in comes to needing social time. But as far as what we like to do for dates and such we are on the same page.
Well, I’m not sure that I have any tips, but I can definitely relate to this! I am outgoing and social, Dustin is about as quiet as they come! I am trying to be more understanding, it’s something that is a little hard sometimes…
It is hard sometimes Mia! Willingness and understanding are the main things we have to remember.
I regulate the amount of time we have friends over or go out to dinner with friends since my husband isn’t as extroverted as I am. It helps to spread out the dates with friends so that he doesn’t feel overwhelmed.
Good idea Pam!