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Is your spouse’s primary Love Language
Physical Touch Love Language Explained:
Babies who are held, hugged, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. pg 109
This quote goes to show everyone is born with the sense of needing touches. Some just feel more loved than others by it. So it’s totally natural that your mate wants to be touched!
Since touch receptors are located throughout the body, lovingly touching your spouse almost anywhere can be an expression of love. pg 110
Again, this is saying that physical touch is much more than foreplay and sex although it includes that as well.
Physical Touch Ideas:
Simple Touches
- The 3 H’s- Hug, High Five and Hold Hands- self explanatory- do them often.
- Soft Touches Casually- touch their face, back, arm, butt, etc as you pass by them.
- Head and Hair- play with their hair or rub their head.
- Horse Play- poking, tickling, chasing teasing.
- Sitting Close- in public or private sit close to your mate.
- Massage– massage parts of their body or even give them a full body massage.
- Pray- hold hands while you do so.
Spice Things Up
- The Marriage Bed is designated for “sex and intimacy for married Christians” with a ton of resources if you are looking for them.
- Intimacy in Marriage “encourages Christian women towards healthy sexual intimacy”.
- The Dating Diva’s have a whole rolling list of romantic rendezvous for you to check out.
I would like to take a moment to acknowledge that speaking a Love Language
How do you speak the Love Language of Physical Touch?
Until Next Time- Truly Love,
Cassie
I think its important to keep love languages and sex separate. You can feel loved using your primary love language by anyone, but sex is unique to you and your spouse.
Also, you can use all the non-sexual touch you want, but its not going to replace sexual desire (quite the opposite usually) for someone with a higher sex-drive (most men and more women than you think).
Likewise, sex without adding primary love language in your relationship turns it into a cheap physical act without a connection.
At least, that’s my opinion.
Those are very good points! The love language physical touch can be used by all with hugs, high fives and touches, etc. The physical bounds of sex is unique to you and your spouse. They both are linked to feeling loved for those whose primary love language is physical touch.
I agree with this point.. “sex without adding primary love language in your relationship turns it into a cheap physical act without a connection.” That is a great point!! I enjoy physical intimacy very much and it definitely speaks love to me.. However, I have discovered that Words of Affirmation is chief! Sex coupled with Words of affirmation make it very fulfilling and not just a duty! I always compare it to having sex as a hero or having sex as a zero. Sex as the hero is better!!!
Love this! Both Mark and my #1 love language is touch — by far!! 🙂
Elise if you both are big fans of Physical Touch you should check out this post I did. I love the idea and it is great! You two would enjoy it for sure! https://www.trueagape.net/2014/06/melt-massage-for-couples/
This is so true what you’re saying and I’ve always been saying that too….love languages and sex are totally separate. Im recently discovering that my lo e language is physical touch when i thought for years that it was quality time. And i realise at times i just need my husband to touch me without thinking its sex that i want…but if we do have sex i would like it to incorporate lots if touching, or else, like u rightfully said, its just a cheap physical act without connection…. feels emotionless
I understand what you are saying, Ronetta. My primary Love Language is Quality Time, but Physical Touch is very close behind it. I wonder if that is because to have Physical Touch you have to be in proximity which could then qualify at Quality Time. Make sure your husband knows exactly what you said here so he can fill your love tank up!
My husband’s love language is almost totally touch with a smattering of gifts and acts of service. I find that sleeping naked (yes lol) and making sure I’m always touching him at night even just a finger on those hot days speaks volumes. You do have to wash/soak sheets more often but to me that’s worth it!
This made me laugh, Sophia! My primary Love Language is Quality Time closely followed by Physical Touch. So I am the one sleeping naked wanting my hubby to cuddle up with me! I am so glad that you know your husband’s Love Language and are willing to speak it!
My wife’s primary love language is physical touch while mine is words of affirmation. I find it really hard to separate physical touch from sex, but I think I am getting better. But its a conscious effort that I have to put in every day, and when I’m touching her its hard for me not to translate it into sex, I guess I get carried away with being close with her.