5 Secrets to Keeping Joy In Your Marriage

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Alonda is a Christian wife and homeschool momma of 3 boys. She is the author at All That Motivates, a blog for moms who need a kick of inspiration when it comes to living the “mom life.” She shares faith builders, parenting tips, diy fun, and other encouraging words. When she’s not in “work mode” Alonda likes to make small moments big moments and find joy in the simple things; like evergreen candles, fuzzy socks, a glass of orange juice, and a good book.

Are you feeling a little weighed down, or maybe even disconnected in your marriage. It can be easy for that to happen as you move out of the “honeymoon stage” and into reality. Suddenly, you realize that you have entered a whole new “world” and this world, like the one before, has it’s challenges.

So what can you do to keep that weight off? To keep those challenges from stealing your joy? I’ve got a few secrets that work for me, and I’d love to share them!

Are you ready?

5 Secrets to Keeping Joy In Your Marriage

1. Make your dates a little less ordinary. Some people like routine, and while routine is all well and good it can also be incredibly fun to switch it up every now and then. Maybe instead of dinner and a movie you go could try going to a concert. Or instead of going to a concert you could try taking an art class. Maybe try a scenic hike, a picnic, a hockey game, a train ride. Switch it up! Add some adventure to your life.

2. Know your spouse’s love language. Know it and learn to speak it. Speak it often. We all give and receive love in different ways. It’s important to make sure that you are giving love in a way that your spouse will receive it.

Me personally, I am an Acts of Service kind of girl. That’s is how I best recognize love. If you want to show me you love me; clean my kitchen, fold my laundry, watch my kids while I take a bath. I feel love when people take time to help me.  My husband, he’s more of a Physical Touch or Words of Affirmation kind of guy. That is how he receives loves; A hug, a kiss, and I “Babe, Thanks for all you do for me, I appreciate you.”

Learn to give love in a way that your spouse will BEST receive.

3. Agree to disagree. Your married, right? So it’s obvious you love each other. You may not always agree on what to eat, how to pay the bills, what clean looks like, or how to discipline (although the closer you can come to an agreement on that last one, the better); but your relationship is more important than any of that. Sometimes you have to choose to agree to disagree and call that conversation quits for the moment.

You can always revisit those concerns; in fact you should. Pray about it, listen for guidance, and go back to it later. But don’t let the heat of the moment get the best of your relationship.

4. Learn to encourage. Find what your spouse is good at and make a big deal out of it. Encourage him! Lift him up! Be that wife that supports her husband; his goals, passions, dreams, etc. Be about his growth. Tell him you believe in him. He’ll to feel so honored that he might just start returning to favor.

5. Be thankful. Thank him for all that he  does for you. He probably does more for you than you think. Sometimes this takes a perspective shift; but your marriage will become more and more enjoyable when you learn to focus on the good you are blessed with instead of dwelling on thing things you feel are missing.

What is another strategy you use for keeping joy in your marriage?

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