4 Actions Wives Should Do Respectfully (From “Real Marriage”)

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We know as wives it is important to show our guys respect. We know that for most men being respectful is a huge thing to them. (Not only for men though, I mean, who likes to be disrespected?!) Previously, I wrote 4 Tips on How To Be A Servant Lover which was inspired by Real Marriage by the Driscoll’s. I was thumbing through the book again when a chapter caught my attention. Chapter 4: The Respectful Wife. Seeing how I believe respect is one of the biggest things that make marriages work I started reading through this section of the book to refresh myself on what the Driscoll’s had to say about it. I love these actions of respectful wives from “Real Marriage.”  They touched base on four actions that we often have to do in marriage and how to do them each respectfully.

Actions For Respectful Wives from “Real Marriage”

Disagreeing Respectfully– It is okay for us to disagree with our spouses! We each have our own thoughts and ideas. There are times where we must discuss those, which means we may disagree. But we can solve disagreements without arguing. Making sure we are engaged in listening to their thoughts and calmly explaining our thoughts are ways you can respectfully disagree.

Counseling Respectfully– Women were created to be man’s helper. That means we are to be wise counsel to our men. Being wise counsel to our men can be a heavy burden sometimes. We should pray about what and when to share with our guys. How to share in a way that makes sense and that he is willing to hear and understand. All while remembering we don’t know everything and our guy may not take our advice. Keeping all these things in mind help us to ensure we are counseling respectfully.

Encouraging Respectfully– I like exactly how the book states this! On page 80 it says,

We all know people who have a way of making us feel cared for and hopeful, even when pointing out sin and folly in our lives. A wife is the most powerful person in her husband’s life, with a great opportunity to encourage her husband towards godliness through her words, actions, and body language.

We must not be a nagging wife, but instead respectfully encourage our men!

Submitting Respectfully– Submitting is sometimes thought to be a negative thing which is not true. Think of submitting in this way: when we marry, the two of us become one unit in some ways. This means we need to sometimes yield or give in to our own wants and think about what needs to be done for the good of the unit. I like to think of submitting as a form of selflessness, if that makes sense. We are to do it willingly and with good attitude which makes for respectful submission.

We have the opportunity to show our man how much we really care for them and how much they really mean to us. When we wives do these four actions in a respectful way we have the opportunity to change the way our marriage works!

Which one of these actions comes the easiest or hardest for you?

Until Next Time- Love Truly,

Cassie