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Motherhood is such a blessing, don’t get me wrong. I love our little girl to pieces and wonder when she is going to start pulling away when I kiss her. Because I just can’t help but to kiss her at least 100 times a day. I have learned a lot in these short eight months. About parenting, marriage and a ton about myself. I have come to realize there are some things that are a bit hard about motherhood. And honestly there are three things that I just CAN NOT STAND about being a mom. Yes, three.
Not the actual fact that the baby eats, but all that really entails. Let me share…the baby has been attached to your boob for the first 6 months of it’s life. You finally start to see hope as you know solid foods will provide a bit of relief. Soon you discover that those sputtering noises that you thought were so cute a week ago are now your worst enemy. You start to wear shirts that coordinate with the color of food you plan to feed that day. You have already had your daily dose of splattered pureed butternut squash on your face. Yet, it is dinner time and the baby must be fed again. As you feed the little squirt, grab a few bites of your own food and try to carry on a meaningful conversation with your husband the baby does it again… a loud, reverberation of those innocent little lips. Little food droplets spray across your face and previously sprinkled shirt. As you calmly wipe your face off you tell the baby, “Momma doesn’t like the food on her face. Food is for you to eat.” as if she can grasp that concept. All while your husband giggles at what he thinks is utter cuteness. So, food on my face is one of the things I can not stand about being a mom.
2) Bath Time
At first the only worry is to rush a sponge bath to ensure your wee little one doesn’t get too cold. Then, you move to the baby tub where she relaxes in a slanted sling. This is helpful. I mean you don’t have to worry about a slippery baby too much. She stays put enough that you know you did a good enough job washing her. Next your baby starts to get quite the personality. She becomes a wormy child that likes to splash her feet as if she is training to swim beside Phelps. A little time passes and now your neck filled with dirt baby is big enough to sit in the baby tub in the big bath tub. However, she has an instant fear of the tub and screams at bath time. Which might have been induced by the time you left her with dad, she had a huge blow out, and dad threw her in the tub to clean her. He reported she cried the whole time. Oh and what about the pee in water? You have almost conquered the chore when sweet pea does exactly that: pee. Now to contemplate do I draw the water all over again or just finish with water from the spout. All to finish up with a red faced baby who you don’t know if she was more clean when you started or now that you are done.
We live in a world where all the information you could ever want is at your finger tips….except something encouraging about babies sleeping. That is almost impossible to find. I can’t tell you how many times I searched phrases that included “sleep” and my babies age in months. All to click multiple articles that said every baby has their own sleep patterns. The articles also liked to mention all the reasons babies might not be sleeping well. For instance: they don’t smell mom, the sheets are cold, they are hungry, teething, 4 month sleep regression, they are hungry, room temperature, lighting, 6 month sleep regression, need for noise, too much noise, they are hungry… you get the point. As a new mom you will try some random stuff to get some sleep. All of which don’t work because they are a baby and babies wake up a lot for awhile. Then, sweet victory comes when your baby starts sleeping longer. You get just enough rest to muster up energy for something you have been meaning to do for weeks. That night the sleeping streak is broken. And you question, What was different? Why did they wake up so much? Still with no answers. Ultimately you realize months in that the baby goes through phases and you must go with the flow. You start to understand the importance of deciding if you will go to bed early or get things done. I tell you what, it never fails. NEVER. The night you get to bed at a decent time your husband needs to stay up later which means you can’t sleep is the night your baby sleeps rock hard. Of course when your husband meets you in bed early is the night your little one wakes 2 extra times. IT NEVER FAILS! Which is why sleeping habits is one of the things I can not stand about being a mom!
There you have it! Three things that I can not stand about being a mom. The whole eating, sleeping and bath thing. Yes, I do realize those things make up most of the day when you are referring to babies. That is exactly why I have said I have learned a lot about parenting, marriage and myself.
I have come to realize:
- You can’t just Google search everything to come up with a solid answer. Ideas, tips and what not to do- of course, but it’s not like other things where you can find the exact answer, execute the suggestion and problem solved.
- Being a mom is hard. You have to be open and honest with your husband. You have to ask for help! They were your best friend and biggest supporter before and they will continue to be.
- Some experiences set off emotions that I need to evaluate. Why am I reacting this way? Is that how I want to present myself to my baby, husband or world in general? I am learning how to cope with emotions that motherhood occasionally brings.
Okay, okay so in all seriousness the above things that I can not stand about being a mom have really tested me. Especially the eating! Ryan and I actually looked at face shields because sputtered food across my face was about to make me go crazy. Lucky for me that phase ended right before I made the purchase! Although these things are testing me and my character I can not be more happy to be a mommy to such a precious baby who is starting to get such a personality. I can not be more happy to have created this little snuggle bug with my best friend. I am so grateful for my little family and the things it is teaching me!
Have any of these three areas been a struggle for you in motherhood?
Until Next Time-Truly Love,