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Effective communication and sharing information with our spouses are very important aspects of keeping positive relationships. I have been reading The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional (One Year Signature Line) and one of the devotionals drove this point home.
The title was called “Information, not Condemnation”
The devotion talked about when there is a disagreement or we are upset we need to remember to present information instead of condemning our spouse.
Example: I forget to wash a load of Ryan’s clothes. Ryan now does not have any clothes for work that morning and becomes upset.
- Responding with condemnation: “You are so forgetful! I can not rely on you for anything!”
- Responding with information: “I am frustrated because I must now wear something I prefer not to wear.”
Condemnation only brings more anger and hurt into the situation. Where information allows the spouse to see how the other is truly feeling. When information is given we can relate to our partner and have sympathy and understanding.
Why do you think it is important to inform instead of condemn in these types of situations?