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Let face it, although your spouse is your best friend and knows you better than anyone else they can’t always know every single one of your needs. Although that would be pretty awesome if they did! But they don’t. So that brings me to today’s post. Don’t be afraid to tell your spouse what your needs are!
I have noticed over the past few months that when things start to get busy this is how things go: my to do list grows, I feel the pressure to get stuff done, I work hard and get tired, after greeting Ryan from coming home from work and talking for a few minutes I get back to work, I multitask through cooking dinner, as we eat together we get 30 minutes or so of talk time, we go back to doing our evening tasks or projects and then it is time for bed. As I lay in bed I usually start to think of all the things I didn’t tell Ryan about the day. But its bed time! And I need some sleep and I have so much to do tomorrow so I better get the rest. Not to mention I am sure Ryan would like to actually go to bed.
And this may go on for several days.
Then I realize my “love tank” is empty. I have been on full throttle for a few days and I am tired. I don’t feel like I have got to have much (or as much as I would like) quality time with Ryan. Be that because I have been staying busy with tasks or when we were spending time together I was thinking about how busy I was.
So with that all being said I personally am working on 2 issues that go hand in hand with this situation. 1) Often times I really don’t have to be that busy, its just I would like to get everything done NOW. Even if I am that busy I need to make sure I am truly taking in our time together rather than thinking about the things on my to do list. 2) I have realized I need to make sure to tell Ryan my needs. Yesterday I told him that I needed/wanted (however you want to look at it) some time with him. Before bed last night we took some time to cuddle and chat. Granted it’s not long until one of us starts falling asleep seeing how we get up so early! But it allowed my love tank to get replenished a little and we planned for some more us time today between work and Ryan’s class reunion.
If you are not telling your spouse what you need how do you expect your needs to be met? If your needs do not get met that hole grows larger and larger which I imagine could create major grief in your marriage. Our spouses are great people, however they don’t always know what we need. Don’t be afraid to tell your spouse your needs!
Ryan meets my needs by spending quality time with me when I let him know I need some time with him. Leave a comment below telling how your spouse meets your needs.