In a society that is all about go, go, go and see how much we can multitask it sometimes is hard to make sure we spend Quality Time with our mate. This is especially important if their Love Language is Quality Time.
Quality Time is my primarily Love Language so this topic is very near and dear to my heart. I thought I would share some ways to ensure your “quality time” is actually quality time.
1) Focused Attention
- If we are sitting there talking and listening to our husband yet we are making a grocery list that attention is diluted. Someone sends us a text. The attention just got diluted again. Focus your attention just on your spouse!
- There will be times that we are in the same room chatting while other things are being done, but do not mistake this for quality time.
2) Quality Conversation
- This means “where two individuals are sharing their experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context.” – pg 60
3) Quality Activities
- This is any activity that one or both of you enjoy to do.
- Focus on why you are doing it (to show love) instead of what you are doing.
Next time you plan to have quality time with your man remember back to this list to make sure it is actually quality time!
In what area can you improve your quality time with your husband?
Until Next Time- Truly Love,
Cassie
My hubby is headed off to a wedding this weekend while I am having a few girl friends over, so we have already begun planning our ‘quality time.’ We’ve marked out tonight to be a date night of just us. We are staying home, cooking dinner together, and spending time praying together for discernment/direction on where the Lord is planning on using us next.
Very nice! We often times have to be very intentional in planning for quality time. Things get so busy that it can be over looked if we are not careful. Or we think it is “quality time” but it is not. Enjoy your time together!
This has been something heavy on my mind this week. My husband and I don’t get a lot of quality time together. He has a crazy work schedule and I have a schedule that is just too busy! I have been brainstorming lately and ways we can spend more quality time together. Watching tv together is one thing that needs to be cut out, it’s not “quality” time. So that is one way we are making a change, keeping the tv off more often and taking walks together or doing something else we enjoy.
I know that when I am really busy I tend not to focus on my husband even when we are together. I will be thinking about other things or multitasking. Quality time helps us get to know each other even more! I’m happy to see you two making changes to make sure you have quality time together!
Oh how applicable this is to my very busy life! Robert and I have set aside Monday night as date night, which is date night at home after the kids have gone to bed, just so we can ensure we’re getting quality time together. It is not always easy to stop and truly be together, but I’m understanding the importance of it more and more!
I like that idea of time after the kids go to sleep. Can’t say money is keeping you from date time! The Dating Divas have a great section of stay at home dates. You can check them out here: http://www.thedatingdivas.com/date-night/at-home/