For me, as a person who thrives on routine, it is really easy to live day to day without much change and repetition. However, my husband, Ryan, enjoys more variety and being spontaneous. I have worked through fears of not being exciting or adventurous enough for my husband. I have learned me preferring routines doesn’t mean I am boring. Most importantly I have come to realize that having variety in your marriage is important!
Having variety in your marriage is important!
I believe having variety in our marriages is important because God proves variety to be essential in life. God started creating variety as soon as he started creating! First with his creating of man and woman. Then, God created each of us in unique ways and with individual gifts and talents forming more variations. Next, He continued by making many many different kinds of animals.
In the Bible in 1 Corinthians 12:4 it says:
“There are diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit.”
This scripture is saying God gives each Christian different gifts, yet He and His work are unified.
Then, also in Romans 12:6 it says,
“Having then gifts differencing according to the grace that is given to us, let us use them…”
Again, the Bible speaks of God giving us different gifts and abilities and that we should use them.
If God created variety and we are told to implement the various gifts he gave us then how to we do that in our marriages?
It can look like a lot of different. Encouraging our spouse to try a new hobby or even something simple as a new meal. Incorporating a different date idea or doing something spontaneous together. Invite a different couple over or try a sex position that you haven’t in a while.
There are a lot of ways to create variety in your marriage!
When we create space for something new or different it gives room for excitement, joy, adventure and so much more. Often times to me it starts to feel a lot like it did when we first started dating. Who doesn’t long for that feeling?!
I’ve also noticed choosing to have variety in our marriage allows for new connections, conversations and learning about each other. Again, some of those same experiences we have when we are first getting to know our mate. Ultimately, creating more unity between the two of us!
Psalms 133:1 declares:
“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!”
When we feel we are one with our spouse we are in a place that is safe and satisfying. A place that is good and pleasant. To think we can create those things from a space of simply creating a little more adventure and variety! When it is put into that context I know that no matter how type A I am it is so worth creating a little more variety in my marriage!
How do you create variety in your marriage?
Until Next Time- Truly Love,