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We are now on our 7th week of marriage and we are still getting use to the small changes. As Ryan mentioned previously about he is going to start keeping receipts, I have had to make changes too. Ryan grew up with his mom and sister and then later had his nephew around so he is use to having the toilet seat cover left down. Or it could be the fact that it is more sanitary! Or maybe the time when he was three and fell in the toilet after his dad left the seat up still haunts him! I for whatever reason have always left it up. So instead of “training” my husband to put the toilet seat down I am being trained to close the toilet seat cover! I occasionally still forget to put it down.
Another thing that started happening when Ryan moved in was my soap container started getting full of water in the shower. The way the water hits his body it would splash into my bar soap container. I didn’t like reaching into a puddle of soapy water from the night before so I had to start training myself to close the container.
Some people might get aggravated at the other person, or expect them to make the changes so things can stay the same. However, Ryan and I look at each situation and consider what the benefit would be for one person to change their habit over the other person. Receipts: He knows it will save me stress if he saves the receipts so he will save them. Toilet: I know he prefers to have the seat cover down which is more sanitary and safe for us so I put the seat cover down. Soap: I know he can’t really help where the water goes off his body so I close the container. Rather than the alternatives of us keeping our old habits and the others getting frustrated or stressed over it. Sometimes it is just better to make small changes. It is a part of respecting your spouse. So far Ryan and I have done well at small changes. I know there will be many more to come throughout our marriage!
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