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Have you and your husband been arguing about chores again? Or are you bitter about you always doing all the chores? How to split chores in a marriage can be a challenging thing for couples. Just like other things we come into marriage with expectations. Often times those expectations can include thoughts around the chores. Figuring out a way to split the chores list can be helpful for both spouses. It creates a clear understanding of who is doing what to contribute to running the household.
How To Split Chores In A Marriage
1.Consider both of your schedules
Depending on your schedules one spouse might have more time to do more chores than the other. Your schedules could also determine who does what chores. If your husband gets up early to go to work it may be ideal for him to take the trash out to the curb on trash day. Or if you routinely come home from a gym class late the evening before it might be ideal for you to take it to the curb before you come inside. Take a serious look at ways your schedule allows you to easily fit in chores.
2.Think about what you each are good at
We are all better at some things than others or we enjoy certain things more than others. Take note of these things. If hubs doesn’t mind doing dinner dishes, but hates dusting see if that can be implemented. For us Ryan enjoys vacuuming and letting Miss M vacuum along with him with her play vacuum. I on the other hand often times find trying to vacuum around her play vacuum not so fun. The easy solution for everyone involved is allowing Ryan (and Miss M) take care of the vacuuming. Ask yourself: Who is good at what tasks? What do we each dislike and enjoy?
3.Don’t take on more that you can handle
If work is a bit hectic don’t pressure yourself into thinking you have to do all your designated chores by yourself. As a woman that thinks she can do it all sometimes I had to learn that when I was overwhelmed it was okay to ask for help even if it was a chore I typically did. And in the same manner you get to be willing to do the same when your spouse needs the help.
If you are trying to figure out how to split chores in a marriage think about each of your schedules, strengths, weaknesses along with your likes and dislikes. Then, remember that it is good to have flexibility depending on how life is going to ensure we are supporting each other. Running your household will run a bit more smoothly once you figure out how to split the chores.
Leave a comment below sharing what is one chore you don’t mind doing.
Until Next Time- Truly Love,
Cassie
P.S. I know some of you might be thinking, “I wish I could get my husband to help around the house!” This post might interest you: The Secret To Getting Your Husband To Clean.
This is truly helpful for all couples. In Western culture, it’s not something abnormal anymore for the man to share household chores with his wife. However, in many Eastern families, it can be something unacceptable, which is sad. I have a golf friend who is about to get married. He may wanna read this. Thanks for posting!
I am glad you enjoyed it, Paul. I hope your friend finds this post helpful as well. Thanks for stopping by!
Sometimes you have to just take it in turns. If there’s a particular chore that you both hate then it’s not really fair to make one person responsible for it all the time.
Hi Done & Dusted- That is a very good point. Sometimes we get to do things that we don’t particularly enjoy because it gets to be done to run the household.