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It’s For Women Only Wednesday! We have previously discussed chapters 1 & 2, chapters 3 & 4 and chapters 5 & 6. Now we are moving on to chapters 7) Chocolate, Flowers, Bait Fishing and chapter 8 ) The Truth About the Way You Look. Let’s just dive right in!
Chapters 7) Chocolate, Flowers, Bait Fishing-Why the Reluctant Clod You Know Really Does Want Romance
Throughout the surveys Shaunti took she found out that 84% of men desired romance for themselves. She also found out that most men were fairly confident that they could plan a romantic event however almost half of the men where not sure if we ladies would like their efforts. Three hesitations men typically have about romantic events are: they won’t do a very good job, they are haunted by other romantic failures and it’s difficult to switch from work to play.
The chapter goes on to talk about how men and women’s definition of romance are different. Therefore, she gives us 2 redefinitons to think about. 1) Men want to go out and “play” with their wives. Go on a hike or exploring a nearby town- things of that nature. Having fun, together, doing something rather than a quiet dinner. 2) Romance without sex may not feel complete for our men. From the earlier review we know sex is a very important part that helps men feel loved. Spending quality time with him during the outing may not be enough for him to feel romanced.
Shuanti finished the chapter by saying to encourage our husbands when they attempt romancing, but to also continually entice him so that he wants to pursue you and lastly don’t be afraid to give him hints about what you need.
Chapter 8 ) The Truth About the Way You Look-Why What’s on the Outside Matters to Him on the Inside
This is another chapter that you really have to prepare for. I stopped a bit into it and prayed for an open heart and understanding. The chapter opens up with,
He doesn’t need you to be a size 3, but he does need you to make the effort to take care of yourself for him- and he’ll willingly help you.
She first assures the women reading the book by saying that we all have insecurities about our bodies and this chapter is in no way trying to add to that. This chapter is however trying to help women understand how important it is to our men that we present ourselves in a nice way.
Men that were surveyed said several interesting things: 1) If their wife is over weight, complains about it, yet does nothing about the issue it emotionally bothers many men. 2) Men want their wives to look good and feel energetic. It’s not important for them to look like they did the day they met, but to take care of herself now.
Why does our appearance matter?
– When we take care of ourselves, our men feel loved.
-When we don’t take care of ourselves, men feel unvalued and unhappy.
– When we take care of our self, our expectation that our men ‘only have eyes for us’ feels more fair and easier to accomplish to our men.
– Men want and need to be proud of us.
Shaunti ends the chapter by saying that men also said they were willing to help us obtain our goals to stay well kept and healthy. She also reminded us that praying about this topic is very helpful as well as sometimes we don’t quite understand it all!
There are a lot of great things in these two chapters to think about and that has changed my perspective. If you would like to read the whole chapters click the banner above to get a chance to win your own copy or to get more information on these two topics you can check out the book below!