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Good Morning! Good cold morning is what I should say! Yesterday we woke to snow on the ground (again) and this morning to windchills between -15 and 0 degrees! So not like Oklahoma! I must venture out to go to the gym, get groceries and a bookshelf for baby (Soon it will start to hear. Need a place to put all my books from school so I can read to it!)
Wanted to share our monthly contribution over at Start Marriage Right this morning with you. Here is a little snippet:
You decide you need to apologize to your mate for raising your voice at them. You know that it was inappropriate and was not being respectful. You muster up enough humility to go up to your spouse and say, “I’m sorry that I raised my voice at you. That was inappropriate.” If you leave it at that it would be a perfectly acceptable apology! But then you add, “But if you would have listened to me….” Now the apology changed into shifting blame.
Shifting blame is easy to do. Even hard not to do sometimes! It is human nature to be the best that we can be. Even when we know we have done something wrong and apologize for it, subconsciously we don’t want it to be our fault. Therefore, we start shifting blame.
If it is as cold in your parts as it is here (or even colder) please try to stay warm and cozy today!
Until Next Time- Truly Love,
Cassie
So true, muster up the courage and stay focused on the apology only! A very good reminder : )
Mia- it is hard to do with our human nature, but it is indeed better!
Doing this is a great way to continue the fight… but it also gives us another chance to forgive and learn how to deal with our humanness.
First off, WOWZERS that is cold!!! Second, I love this. It is incredible what a huge difference two little words make. I need to work on this. Thanks for the reminder 🙂
I think we all could work on this more Chloe! It is against our human nature!
I never thought about it that way but I am guilty of doing that and you are so right. That doesn’t help anyone or the situation…thanks for making me think a little deeper, as usual!
Aren’t we all guilty of doing this Pam?! Now that you are aware of it you can start to change it. We all learn from what we do. Good luck!