Amy is a wife and mom of 3 who thinks the only way to start the day is with coffee in a cute mug. She loves her family, of course, all things outdoors, running (if you want to call it that), and her border collie, Izzy. She can usually be found running her children all over town, buying exotic chocolate bars, or blogging at www.justfinishstrong.blogspot.com
You’ve heard it before, probably many times, opposites attract. (Being teenager in the 90’s the Paula Abdul hit song is now running through my head.) Do you know why you’ve heard it before? Because it is true. I married my opposite. And while I get why God made us attracted to someone who isn’t just like us, it can cause serious problems in marriages. If that is the case for you, here are 3 things you can do to make being married to your opposite a little easier on both of you.
- Don’t try to change your spouse to become like you. It took me years, 18 to be exact to realize that there was no way I was going to rush my husband out the door on time. I tried a million different ways to “motivate” him to hurry. But the truth is, he takes his time. He needs to check the house, he needs to make sure he has everything, and he’s going to take his time doing it. And the truth is, we might be on time if he were like me, but the backdoor would remain unlocked because I sure wouldn’t take the time to check it, but he would.
- Let your spouse take the reigns when maybe you shouldn’t. Because I’m quick to pull the trigger on a lot of things, I tend to make mistakes. We are currently looking for a new house. When I find one I like, I’m ready to make an offer and move in. But the truth is, there might be something wrong with the house that I don’t think to look at. So when it comes to major decisions, I let my husband research it, ponder it, and research it some more. He comes up with things I would have never thought of and usually saves us either some money or some heartache in the end.
- Celebrate your differences! Let’s be honest. Life would be boring if we were married to ourselves. It can be fun doing life with someone who sees things differently. Your spouse is a gift to you from God. Look for your differences and see how you can use them to the advantage of your family. Be willing to look at things a different way, maybe try something new, or sit back and watch your spouse shine.
Tell your spouse today that you are thankful you are different! And then remind him why he/she should celebrate how you are different!