“You are a leader,” were Ryan’s words of affirmation for me that day. Those words have rung in my ears many of times since then.
One day I was trying my best to put my thoughts and feelings into words to explain myself to Ryan.
I was explaining about two different times in life where people that meant a lot to me where criticizing the actions that I was doing in my life. Both of these actions were “healthy” actions. But it felt as if they were laughing at me for doing such “crazy” things. They literally had laughed at me. These people were suppose to be close to me yet they were judging me.
That feeling was hard to swallow back then and even now. I have been working on letting it go, but for some reason there is still a little sting when I think about it. I went on to explain- in both of these cases now years later they are doing the same actions that they gave me grief about then. I tried to tell him how hurtful it can feel, yet how odd and funny it is at the same time.
Ryan simply listened to my attempt of share my feelings that I was working through. As he looked at me he said, “It is because you are a leader.” I don’t remember having words after that to say. I just remember thinking, “Ohhhhh…. he is good.” And that made sense to me and brought peace to my heart.
Although it was hard at the time of being judged and even later once they were doing those things they once judged me for. It was all ok when Ryan put it into that perspective. Maybe them seeing me do those “healthy actions” inspired them to do them or maybe I was the one that planted the seed. Maybe I am a leader.
Like I said his words have echoed inside of me many times since that day. Simple words of affirmations from our spouses can bring such peace and understanding. Try hard to find times where you can offer that to your loved one!
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