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Sheila Rhodes is a follower of Christ, wife to her handsome Hubs and mother to the most amazing daughter ever. She loves anything that sparkles and has been known to leave a trail of glitter wherever she goes. You can find her sharing her stories from the heart on a stage or www.JesusGlitter.com and Facebook where she lovingly refers to her followers as “Glitter Gals”. Her passion is to encourage women to see Jesus Glitter in their everyday lives and “Be the Sparkle!” to others. Her passion is to help others to find their identity in Christ and to pursue the calling God has placed within their heart. Sheila is currently preparing to launch her first book called, “Holy Unrest: When Conflict Meets Your Calling” in early spring.
There is nothing that brings a smile to my husband’s face quicker than the smell of a homemade pie in the oven. It isn’t just because he loves my pie, but it is because he knows it was made with love, and sacrifice for him. You see pie is not my thing, but it is his thing.
Love and sacrifice are some of the same elements which make for a healthy marriage. The difference is it takes two people to make a healthy marriage pie. Could you imagine making an apple pie without the apples? It wouldn’t be a very tasty pie and would be sunk in and flat. In fact, you couldn’t even call it an apple pie! We can fill our marriage with many things, but if we don’t use the right ingredients, our marriage could end up being flat!
No matter how long you have been married, I bet if I asked what brought you together (besides God of course) you would say it was love. Love is the feeling of wanting to do life with a person you don’t ever want to live without. Sometimes love is a noun and other times it is a verb. It is important to use love both ways. Your love is what brought you together and is foundational for your relationship. Loving each other is working to keep the relationship strong.
Always remember why you fell in love in the first place. Don’t let the memory fade. It is important to keep your love in the forefront of your mind because there will be times of difficulty, but when you keep love alive and stoked, you will be a safe haven for each other. It is great to have a place where you know despite what life throws at you, the person you love is in your corner.
Sacrifice is another element which makes for a healthy marriage. When we willingly give of ourselves to each other there is a heart of affection and respect which grows great fruit! Marriage can’t be one-sided. It is like asking someone to carry something double their weight. The partner shouldering all the burden will grow tired, angry and resentful, resulting in being burned out. There are times when one spouse will have to sacrifice more than the other. An example of this would be if your spouse becomes sick, or when a tough decision has to be made in the best interest of the family. This is when you remind yourselves why you fell in love in the first place.
Love and sacrifice are the same traits God demonstrated in order to call us into relationship with Him. God loved us while we were yet sinners. He sacrificed His beloved son Jesus to take our place. Why? Because God loved imperfect people perfectly. It was God’s love and sacrifice that laid the foundation to demonstrate the greatness of our worth to Him.
Don’t we desire to know how valuable we are to our spouse as well? Occasionally, we need to remind our spouse how much we love them by sacrificing our needs for theirs. This is why I’m off to bake a pie and then he’s going shopping with me.
Be the Sparkle to the one you love the most!