This morning we have an interview with a friend of mine, Megan. We attend ladies bible study together on Wednesday mornings. She is so friendly and caring to the women around her and she loves her son unconditionally. So I just had to ask her some questions about her marriage! Thank you, Megan for sharing with us today!
Q: Where did you meet your husband?
I admit at the time I met Paul, I was not looking for a boyfriend, no less a husband. I had told God I had given up on guys and that I would let Him show me who was right for me, little did I know I would meet him two weeks after I had said that prayer. I met my husband the end of my senior year in high school at Leadership Training for Christ. I honestly was not comfortable talking to boys that I did not know very well so for me to even talk to him was a big deal. I actually was able to converse with him very easily and just felt really comfortable around him from the first time we met. He ended up asking me to go to his church banquet with him and we made it exclusive about a month or so after that.
Q: How long did you two dated and how long were you engaged?
We dated for two and half years and were engaged for about eight months. We were actually on a trip with his family to the beach in Galveston, TX. On December 28th, 2006 Paul proposed to me on the beach at sunset. My favorite place and time of day. He actually put the ring on my pinkie because he was trying to look in my eyes. I kissed him and said yes! I put the ring on the correct finger and didn’t tell him that part until later. He took me to eat at Rainforest Café! It was a magical night I will remember forever.
Q:How long have you been married?
We married on August 4th, 2007 at 29th at Yale Church of Christ. Paul’s youth minister did our wedding. Our theme was a castle rose garden, so if you picture hundreds of pink roses in various forms as well as a gazebo and columns lining the walkway you get the idea. We now have been married 8 years! It has not been perfect, we disagree, we don’t like each other sometimes, and we get very upset at each other on occasion, but honestly what relationship does each person do everything perfectly unless it’s our relationship with Christ. We also love adventures, love to serve others, love to plan vacations, like to try new foods and places to have fun. We try to help each other and meet one another’s needs. We try to commit to being there even when the other person is being amazing and when he or she is not very enjoyable. We have made a vow before God, our family and friends that this relationship is until death do us part. We take that extremely seriously. Mark 10:6-9 states
But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female’. ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’. So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.
Q: How many child do you have?
We have one son on earth and two children in heaven. First, I would like to talk about our children in heaven. I must say having kids is hard and I don’t mean just the parenting part. You honestly think and hope that everything is going to be fine and it does not always work out that way. Our first children died when I was 10 weeks pregnant. We knew something was wrong at the first ultrasound they were not as big as they should have been. I had a great doctor that did all he could to try to help, but sometimes God’s plan is for children to go back directly to God’s arms because they are not able to have a good life in this world. They went to be with Him on January 14, 2013. This was something extremely difficult for us and especially me to handle because you ask what did I do wrong, why did this happen? Why couldn’t we have this blessing with us? The answer is this is an imperfect world and sometimes bad things happen to good people because our bodies are not perfect, medicine is not perfect and this world is not perfect. I think for me God allowed me to understand the pain of loss so I can help reach others. Even though it is extremely painful it helped me really be able to be there for others as they have experience similar loss.
When we found out we were pregnant with our son we were very anxious. Thankfully, I was able to stay with the same doctor as before and he made sure to have me do blood work every week for the first 10 weeks. We had waited to tell our parents the first time because we wanted to make sure the babies were okay. We decided this time to tell them as soon as possible so either way we would have more support for whatever happened. Our son grew and was fine! He was born in December 2013. He was precious even from the beginning. I had a few complications in having him so it really helped he was such a wonderful baby. It had been wonderful, but it also has put a lot of stress on our marriage. We had to figure out how to have time for our wonderful boy, but also make sure we still take time for each other. We are now figuring out the best ways to discipline as he is getting to the one and half year whining and screaming stage. We are trying to figure out the best ways for praise when he is kind and helpful. It’s an adventure that is well worth it! We also made sure he had a specific bedtime so we can have some alone time.
Megan shared some other thoughts about marriage that I will be sharing at a later date. Things like how her and her husbands communication has changed, how to make time for each other when busy, date nights and more. I love as I read what she shared you can really see her heart for God and her family!