Megan shared about how her and her husband met along with answered some other questions in part one of this interview. But I just had to share the rest of what she had to say too!
How has your communication improved since getting married?
I admit this freely. I am not a great communicator especially at first. If I disagree or don’t like something I will be silently angry and hold it in until I explode. I have improved quite a bit since the beginning, but it also helps that Paul can read me facial expressions so if I’m making a face he will tell me to speak up. I have also become more likely to voice my opinion as we have gotten to know each other better. We try to talk to each other at dinner, in the evening and we have really great conversations in the car. I know I can tell Paul anything and he will not be judging or mean because we have built a trust and confidence in one another.
How do you make time for each other with busy schedules?
Paul and I try to have a date night at least once a month. We enjoy eating a variety of cuisine so we will more than likely try a new place and then go do an activity together. We try to talk at dinner and after our son goes to bed. We will call or text during the day or see each other at lunch when Paul has time. We talk many times in the car going to church, errands or wherever else we are traveling. We also like to do activities such as playing computer games, board games and watching TV. We currently are on a journey to get in shape and lose weight so we will have fun on a ski trip we are going on as a family.
Share your favorite date night idea with us?
Our favorite date night recently was going to the Warren movie theater and sitting in the balcony. There are no kids allowed so it feels like some real adult time! We also ordered food from their diner and waiters will bring you whatever you order and will refill your drink as needed. The chairs have heated seats so it’s a pretty fabulous because it soothes your muscles and keeps you warm in the cold theater. The surround sound is absolutely amazing and the screen is massive! We went as a present to Paul for Father’s Day so we saw Jurassic World. It’s not my kind of movie, I had to cover my eyes a few time, however it was Paul’s choice so I can handle it. If he can watch a romance, I can see some scary, to me, movies.
How does a biblical submissive wife and helpmate look in your relationship?
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:21-33 NIV
18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3-18-19. ESV
Paul is using this example of Christ and the church to show us how a godly marriage should look. I believe the whole point of these verses is summed up in Ephesians 5:21-, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Submitting means we are allowing the other person to have control. Yes, we have different jobs we are called to do, but that does not mean one has more authority than the other. We equally get a say. A wife is to offer herself to and respect her husband. This does not mean the husband gets to decide everything and lord over his wife. He is to guide his family to follow the Lord and follow his word. He is the example his family should be able to look at and say this is how we follow God. A husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. This means he should be willing to give everything he has; even his own life for his wife. I think I can submit and respect a man if I know he is willing to take a bullet for me. I can respect a man who is trying to guide our family to be more Christ-like.
Thank you so much, Megan, again for allowing me to share some of your insights and stories!