Ryan and I have been very busy! We had set out this year to make it the best year in our marriage along with our businesses and personal goals. That is a huge order to fill! While growing businesses can for sure be time consuming and take energy, we wanted to make sure to put our marriage as a priority. Specifically including building intimacy. There have been extra busy periods of time where we didn’t do great, but for the most part I feel like we have done a good job. Are you also looking for ways to build intimacy with your husband?
Now that we have been married five years we fell into a routine and got comfortable. We weren’t necessarily perusing each other any more. We wanted to make an effort to bring a little more excitement and intimacy back into our marriage. There have been four things we have been doing to facilitate this rebuilding of intimacy that I want to share with you today.
Ways To Build Intimacy With Your Husband
- Make Time For Dates: If you are already doing dates, change up the types of dates you are doing or initiate some by surprise. For us this means making the effort to have a sitter once a month so that we can be kid free to connect. But also dates at home (we love the Crated with Love subscription) are an option after the kids go to bed to eliminate sitter costs and expenses of going out. Or maybe even trading time with a friend to swap sitter duties. Making time to learn more about what each other enjoys and creating fun times together can create intimacy.
- Speak His Love Language: Knowing and speaking your spouse’s Love Language daily is a sure way to create intimacy. Understanding what they prefer and how they feel loved is the key to their heart. Then taking the time and making the effort to show them love in that way shows commitment. There are three ways to find out your husband’s Love Language if you don’t know what it is.
- Ask Questions: Think of things you still don’t know about your spouse and then ask questions to learn more about him. Do you know what his favorite holiday is and why? What about his favorite cartoon as a child? Or if he could do any hobby or meet any person? Remember the dating days of just wanting to learn as much as possible about each other? Get back into that mind set! Feeling like you know things about your man that no one else knows creates a feeling of closeness.
- Support His Goals: Get clear on what his current goals are for his work or his hobby. That might mean asking him. When you are supporting your man in these things he feels respected and loved. Ensuring not only that your words are supportive to him, but also your actions.
These things Ryan has been doing for me as well. (I think he might even have a reminder set on his phone! Hey whatever it takes!) This has allowed us to feel loved and connected which has helped us to communicate better with openness and vulnerability. We both have mentioned how we are feeling connected, intimate and loved more now than we ever have before. Because we are being intentional and purposeful with our marriage!
What are ways that you build intimacy with your husband?
Until Next Time- Truly Love,