Laura is a wife and mother of 3. Her oldest left the nest in August 2014 to attend Baylor University. Her other children are 16 and 14. She lives in OK and enjoys volunteering at her childrens’ schools, writing, reading, hosting church community group and bridal showers for her friend’s kiddos who are taking an even further flight and getting married (yikes!). You can find more on her blog Almost Empty Nest or follow her on Pinterest.
My husband and I recently celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary. It’s been an amazing 24 years filled with fun, laughter, a few arguments, kids, dogs, remodeling, late nights, early mornings, and a some surprises along the way. At the age of 18, as I left home to go to college, I did not know what to expect, but I absolutely knew the things that would NEVER happen. Here is a partial list of some of those things.
People I would NEVER marry:
- A physician
- If he has to be a physician, then not an internal medicine physician
- Someone not from Texas
- Someone who did not want to live in Texas
I was NEVER going to marry a doctor. My Dad was an internal medicine physician. I knew what that meant. It meant late nights at the hospital, rounding on the weekends, and not a lot of vacation, but when you meet that handsome pre-med major from Oklahoma when you are 18, a lot of things go out the window. And, yes, my husband is an internal medicine physician and we’ve lived in Oklahoma for 17 years.
The Parenting lessons I NEVER needed:
- To give my own parents a break when I realized that parenting is not as easy as it looks.
- That parenting a child who is smarter than I am (and knows it) is a real challenge.
- That with a particular child (see #6), no matter what I tell him to go upstairs and do, I will find him playing Legos 15 minutes later. If the instructions included getting dressed and ready to go somewhere, he will be naked when I find him.
- That sometimes despite all my best efforts, I will be that mom in the store with the screaming child. I found it’s best to appear to onlookers as if I have no idea who this screaming kid is or why I am holding him down in the basket with both arms and pulling things off the shelves with my teeth.
All the schools I would NEVER send my kids to:
- Private school
- Catholic school
- Public school
First we were not going to send our kids to private school. Then we were not going to send them to Catholic high school. Then we were NEVER going to use our local public school because we loved our private schools so much. (Between 3 kids, we total 14 years of non-denominational Christian school, 4 years at Catholic high school, and 3 years of public school.)
The Moms I NEVER knew I would be:
- Track and cross country Mom
- Gymnastics Mom
- Show choir Mom
- Cheerleading Mom
- Film Mom
My kids are WAY more creative and coordinated than I am. One of them can even sing and dance AT THE SAME TIME. I effectively demonstrated to the entire tumbling gym recently (and have the bruise to show for it) that none of my daughter’s coordination came from me when I tripped over a mat and fell on a fan.
Notes and Calls from children’s schools I NEVER knew I would receive:
- The note from the principal with a blow-by-blow description of the 1st grade food fight in which my son was involved. My son denies to this day that he put “grass in Robby K’s soup.”
- The call from my son’s teacher concerning his “meditation club,” which involved his 2nd grade classmates sitting on the sidewalk during recess with frisbees on their heads while he supervised their meditation. A parent complained that they found it “creepy.”
The Dogs I would NEVER have:
The 1960s ranch “fixer-upper” that NEVER needed that much work:
- All of our remodeling projects have cost twice the original budget and seem to take 3 months longer than expected.
- Let me know if you need to know how to remove 5 decades of layered wallpaper.
I NEVER knew how blessed I would be:
- I honestly know I don’t deserve the man I married. He works so hard at his job, but manages to always be there for us. He has rounded at 3 am on Saturdays to make it to 9 am sports games for the kids. He has supported my role as stay-at-home mom and has provided every material thing we need as well as many we don’t. He has been a godly example to our boys of what a Christian father and husband is. He has set the bar very high for our daughter’s husband. He is loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle and self-controlled.
What is something you thought you would never do as wife or mom?