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Time together as a couple is an important thing. As a newlywed couple you start setting up routines for how the day and week progresses. This may include things like what day you do laundry or take out the trash, but this also can include things like date nights or seeing family.
Couples spend their time together in different ways. Some couples read a book together at night, some workout together, some garden together… the list goes on and on. That is something you and your spouse will have to figure out: what you both enjoy and fits into your schedule. Ryan and I both like to run, but we rarely do it together as we both run different paces and are continually training. So spending time together running is not ideal for us. We both enjoy reading, however I enjoy reading before bed to get relaxed, not to have a discussion about the book. So spending time together reading and discussing is not ideal either.
Ryan and I often (probably 98% of the time) eat at home. Depending on each of our afternoon schedules depends on who will start the meal. Sometimes we work in the kitchen together to accomplish the task and sometimes one will manage it while the other works. Whatever the case is we sit down at the table and eat dinner together. That is the time we catch each other up on the day. That is when we share our thoughts or perplexities about the world around us. This is our time together as a couple.
Now here is the hard part. When you establish what your time together is and how you are going to spend it. Try to the best of your ability to not let other things take that away. People will not budge when it comes to their weekly tv shows, having lunch with friends, and checking their favorite websites. So why budge about something as important as spending time with your spouse. Like I said this is the hard part, I know….
Last week things were pretty hectic and I had a million and one things to do. I had a stack of papers to grade about a foot tall. As Ryan set the plates on the table for dinner I grabbed a stack of papers to grade. I thought to myself, “These are easy to grade. I can listen and grade at the same time.” By the time I turned around and took one step the next thought came to mind, “No. This is our time. I will not let anything take that away. Ryan, will not feel loved if I am side tracked grading papers. Nor, will my love tank get filled.” I quickly turned back around and placed the papers back where they belonged. I enjoyed our quality time together while eating dinner!
Although it is hard sometimes to not allow other things to take over our time together as a couple. It is worth the effort! Spending time together, growing, sharing and experiencing creates a deeper understanding and love for one another.
Share below how you and your spouse spend time together!
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