You are feeling hurt, let down, maybe even shocked that he would act the way he did. Whatever he did has left you feeling like you can’t trust him like you once did before. You feel betrayed. You’re asking yourself, “How do I forgive after he betrayed me?”
A question that often comes up within marriages is “How do I forgive him for…?” And the dot dot dot is typically some version of “hurting me”. How do I forgive him for hurting me? There are several ways to go about forgiving your man if he has hurt you. Also, depending on the offense, it might affect how long it takes to give forgiveness and what it looks like to rebuild the relationship.
Whether your husband said something bad about you behind your back, spent money without telling you, or looked at inappropriate content there are several things to remember when forgiving your husband.
How Do I Forgive After He Betrayed Me? Here are 3 ways:
- Remember We Are Equal- Somethings it’s easy to go into who is right or wrong or who is better than the other. The main thing to remember is that we both are equally important and loved by God.
- Forgiveness Is A Choice- Forgiveness is not a feeling you arrive at and then forgive. Forgiveness is a choice that we make more so based out of what we are wanting and willing to create moving forward. When holding on to anger or resentment it keeps us from moving our marriage forward. Ultimately, I look at it from the sense of God forgave us for all our sins so how do I have the right not to forgive my husband! If God is willing to forgive, than so should I.
- This Is Our Calling- Apart of being a wife is to show unconditional love to our men. It is hard as humans to know exactly how much God loves us. But through our intimate relationship we can start to see a tiny glimpse of just how much God loves us. This is what we are helping our men to understand when we love unconditionally and forgive willingly.
In no way shape or form am I saying that there are not consequences for actions or that trust doesn’t need to be rebuilt. What I am saying is that forgiveness is a choice and often times shifting our perspective can yield forgiveness. Once we forgive our men for betraying us we often feel a burden being lifted off our shoulder and the gray cloud rising. It’s because we chose no longer to hold on to it. You don’t have to wonder, “How do I forgive after he betrayed me?” anymore. Now it’s all about embracing forgiveness so that you can benefit from it.
How do you forgive your man when he has hurt you?
Until Next Time- Truly Love,