This morning I was reading The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional where the title Expressing Feelings was the topic for the day. I immediately thought, “Oh, this will be good!” The past month and a half or so I can tell that my body is trying to get lined all back out post-pregnancy. Which occasionally means my hormones are a bit out of whack. In turn it is teaching me that sometimes I need to express my feelings more or in better ways to Ryan.
The devotional started out by saying it is important to express our feeling to our mate because if we don’t openly share, our feelings will likely show up in some other way. Most likely in our attitude or our behavior. Which then has our spouse wondering what is wrong or asking us if something is the matter. Instead if we express our feelings in a positive way it allows us to be a team to work through them and grow closer together.
I really liked this next part:
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It continued on to say:
Most of our feeling are tied to some experience we have had in the past or something we’re going through now. The next time you feel disappointed, ask yourself, What stimulated my disappointment? Then try to share whatever it is with your spouse.
When I read that I just was like, “Ah, that is so true!” First, it is completely okay to have a wide variety of feelings in our lives. Secondly, our reactions to our feelings show so much about us and our character. So how do I want to show up on those days where my emotions are high? And thirdly, those feelings are connected to other experiences.
Although our husband may not understand our past experiences or current circumstances they can still support us if we allow them to. Expressing our feelings openly with them and sharing what might be triggering those feelings are ways to keep communication open. It also allows our men to come beside us for support so that we may work as a team.
No matter how great our guys are or how well they know us they do not always know what is wrong or have the ability to decipher our moods correctly. Instead we wives need to become better at expressing our feelings to them. (Or I guess I should say I know I need to be better at expressing my feelings sometimes.) I know this devotional was a great one for me to read today! I hope sharing it will bless you as well.
What is a way you positively express your feelings to your spouse?
Until Next Time-Truly Love,